My husband says that i should not put my children [hes not their father]before him.?

he says that they are spoiled and selfish but their not.my daughters are both in college they still live with us they can't contribute to the house money wise because i think that they should focus on their studies they don't have time for anything else sometimes.some family members thinks that he is just jealous of my relationship with my young adults. my father told me and my sisters you should never put any man before god or your children we argue all the time that i love my kids more than him.i take good care of him [he is on a fixed income]anything he needs i try to get it for him but is always has something slick or unkind to say when i help my kids.my young people are well grounded i raised 5 kids with the help of my parents my husband came later.he drives me crazy whining all the time about what he does'nt have instead of being happy with what god has given us on a daily basis he wants me to move back to his hometown with him and leave my family here i don't want to.my parents have passed on its only me and my sister and brother left and theres my young adults what should a loving mother do.my husband wants to be the center of attention all the time i'm getting older i'm just trying to enjoy what ever time we have left on this earth with the people i love and love me around.he says my relationship with my kids is toxic i wonder is he toxic to me. and our marriage.